I’ve been reading Hope, Human and Wild by Bill McKibben. Its not too bad. But I wanted to write about my thoughs on Kerala…often brought up by environmentalists (including McKibben) as the golden standard to aspire to.
I’ve been in a very pessimistic mood lately, so this post is going to reflect that pessimism. This post is also poorly written. So please put your grammer rules aside for now.
I am very familiar with Kerala - a state in India. For one, I was born there. I’ve also lived in a small town in Kerala for a while. But I hated the place. Yes the food was lovely, the resource consumption is as low as everyone says it is. The weather was tolerable despite the heat and humidity, mainly because of all the trees that make the place liveable. And the water is delicious! But the people…well its what makes a place. And for the most part its the people that made me despise the place.
While I realize that the norms and customs of a community is what makes up a community I dislike the notion that an outsider or someone who deviates from those norms and customs can be ostracized, burned at the stake, etc, etc. While I’ve only become mildly obnoxious in the last few years, in general I am not a rebel. I like to follow the rules and overall am an all round do-gooder.
One of the reasons I like the U.S. is because people in general tend to leave you alone. This is coming from my experience of living in a city, suburb and the country.They chalk up your eccentricities as eccentricities. But there isn’t an overall pervasive negative vibe following you everywhere you go if you’re slightly odd. If you speak English with a slightly different accent you aren’t mocked. You’re just asked to repeat yourself (and occasionally treated like a special exhibit at the zoo). You can wear almost type of clothing anything and not be bothered about it for the most part. Your neighbors won’t come over and call you a slut for wearing shorts in 100 degree weather (and you are wearing shorts in your own house…not walking around town with it).
I am not quite sure how to put this. But, everytime a white person walks around in India they are treated as a god (one reason my husband is quite eager to visit India). White skin is prized. So I can’t imagine a white person having a terribly negative experience in a place like Kerala. Maybe they might wind up as victims of theft or pickpocketeers…but their attitude and behaviour won’t be mocked. But if those same attitudes were somehow part of someone’s personality (say…me)…then life will be hell. Speaking the native language with a slightly different accent will get giggles and mockery every single time. Wearing jeans will be seen as a huge act of rebellion that will need to be curbed.
I can’t remember what else made my life a living hell seeing as I have a terrible memory. But I wonder if its worth it to live in a community with a very low rate of resource consumption and give up any semblance of a personality in order to fit in.






In mainland China, white skin is prized also. I tan easily and so dark skin is normal for me. Most people were awfully rude and took guesses at what my background was by my skin color.
I would mind having to give up personality to live in a low resource community. It’s your identity and who you are. Why would anyone want to trade that for less consumption living? I think you can keep your identity in a high resource consumption society by practicing what you believe. That doesn’t make much sense but you get my point …
Comment by sfordinarygirl — June 18, 2008 @ 1:18 pm
Beany, I think the cities in India have changed a lot in the past 10 years. I think there is still that attitude in the villages, and I’m not South Indian and I don’t know Kerala at all. And I’ve heard (though maybe this is just North Indians being superior) that South Indians are more socially conservative than North Indians.
But anyway the cities I do know … Bombay and Delhi, there has definitely been a huge shift in attitudes. People wear shorts on the streets. Not short shorts, but shorts. People wear jeans. Women seem to be allowed more freedoms. Of course Bombay and Delhi are not known for their low resource consumption!
The obsession with being white is a national obsession though. My SO who is Tamil was going to do a mockumentary interviewing people on the street asking them what they thought about the phrase “Black is Beautiful.” I’ll have to ask him whatever happened to that project.
Comment by arduous — June 18, 2008 @ 1:39 pm
My comment is largest unrelated in a sense of community. But I can draw some level of parallel. I have friends that are big shoppers and don’t really care about the environment. But I still love them because they are passionate, generous, kind and funny. I also know a person who is as green as can be but is generally not easy to be with, because she is critical and judgemental. The way I see it, it is probably easier to influence my nice friends to be green than to turn a judgemental person kind.
So I totally understand where you are coming from - you have to be yourself foremost and love the people around you.
Comment by CindyW — June 18, 2008 @ 2:38 pm
SF: your comment made perfect sense.
Arduous: I did most of my growing up in a big city (complete with mini skirts/bars/internet cafes in the mid 90s/etc). I was referring to Kerala and the attitude I experienced. I know I shouldn’t, but I get annoyed when people talk about how wonderful Kerala is. And I don’t think it is. I would have liked to walk out by myself and take the bus by my self without having the wrath of societal expectations regarding the role a woman plays land on my head. Maybe the place has changed. Maybe its paradise on earth right now and I’m just being mean.
The underlying concern with skin color seemed more to do with marriagability and how attractive any prospective babies would be coming from a dark person. Now that I’m happily married and could have all light skinned babies I want, will my skin color be forgiven? I mean…its not like I had any control over the number of melanocytes I was given (force feeding me tomatoes was certainly not going to fix that problem).The thing is I look back on my childhood and think about how cruel it was to say the things that were said to a young child. I think all children are beautiful..so how does one decide that one is better looking than another? How could anyone think to say such hurtful things to someone who is so mouldable? My reaction now is that these people should be kept far, far away from me.
CindyW: I have alot of self-hate issues that I am working on. Since I think being happy and loving yourself is the most important goal in life, its not worth sacrificing.
Comment by Beany — June 18, 2008 @ 3:52 pm
Oh…I’d love to know the reactions to the “Black is Beautiful” mockumentary. I know its not just an Indian (or a Chinese) thing. Apparently this is also present in Hispanic families (one of those actresses who is in one of those soaps(?) mentioned how she was frequently criticized by her family for having dark skin and dark hair.
Comment by Beany — June 18, 2008 @ 4:09 pm
Well, glad to have you in the good ol’ USofA, really truly sincerely. I am a white male and generally have harsh, negative feelings about the eurocentricity and self-centered aggrandizement of USA folk. Its good to hear a positive. Thanks. Love ya!
Comment by equa yona — June 18, 2008 @ 7:04 pm
I have no direct connections to India, and have only heard of Kerala in just the way you mentioned — as a highly-esteemed example of how a society can meet people’s basic needs while minimizing excess resource use. There is never any discussion (that I have read) about what socio-cultural factors are at work in Kerala that might contribute to the accomplishments of the places but also be really unacceptable to other cultures. You have brought up a really important concept! I would be very interested in hearing whether you think that Kerala’s successes are somehow a result of their high levels of cultural and social restrictions (or whatever label you might put on the unpleasant cultural expectations and behaviors you decribed). People hold Kerala up as an example, to say “look, if they can succeed in keeping people healthy, literate, etc, at their level of resource use, we can too!”. But can Kerala’s success really work in less oppressive places too, or is somehow that a part of what makes it work there?
Thanks for these insights!
Sue
Comment by Sue in the Western Great Basin — June 19, 2008 @ 11:10 am
Sue: While I already did make somewhat of a generalization of an entire state…I don’t want to keep at it.
I’m trying to find the right way to say this…but blindly praising a culture without an in depth look at it cannot yield any reliable conclusion. For example, reading history shows that our ancestors were not necessarily bright nor did they care much for earthly resources enough to be kind to them. But I used to pine for those days not realizing that I would be just as annoyed living in the so called good old days as I am now.
I am starting to believe in the idea (even though I dislike it) that some level of homogeneity is necessary for any level of success in a society. When there are too many outlying/unexpected factors it results in friction. In my limited readings and experiences this rules seems to hold true.
Comment by Beany — June 19, 2008 @ 3:02 pm
I just wrote a very lengthy slightly off topic comment. And it was eaten. Gone. I’m not sure it was brilliant, but I think you would have appreciated it. Sorry. No energy or time to recreate it!
Comment by natalie — June 19, 2008 @ 6:11 pm
Sorry natalie. Not sure what happened since I’ve notified the software to email me the comment no matter what is posted.
I’m sure it was brilliant and insightful.
Thank you.
Comment by Beany — June 19, 2008 @ 8:07 pm